Now a days,we are used to hearing this famous line from our friends or anyone whom we meet, ''I'm not in mood today since I had a quarrel with so and so'', we term this notion as''misunderstanding between them ''and continue on with life, treating this as a normal behavior between two individuals.But,according to me this is a problem ....and has far reaching effects on them as well as others,especially when there are children around.
If you disagree with someone about something,then-by definition-you have a conflict. And conflicts of one sort or another happen every day, so if we don't handle them very well they can very easily make us feel bad.Even the smallest of conflicts can chip away at our self-esteem if they are not managed carefully. And when I say small,I mean small: looking into issues like this... a couple who were really struggling to get along and you'd never guess what was highest on their list of their many current issues - they squabbled every single day about whether a partly-used food can should remain in a convenient spot or neatly stored away in the cupboard so as not to offend the eye!
To most of us this sounds like a trivial problem, and indeed it is - on the surface at least. But these two people squabbled about it every day,often in front of their children,always with a display of irritation. They could not see a way to resolve the issue without one or other of them simply giving way and feeling diminished by having "lost" the argument.
If you'd like to discover a healthy style that would resolve ANY conflict - not just where to put partially-used food cans -But also ,a way to end the daily squabbles and arguments,giving a 'HOME ' a healthy atmosphere, especially to children.We first need to understand that these conflicts brings us nothing but-failure......failure to deal with such issues in a responsible manner,failure to have a focus in our lives .....failure to understand that children are meant to stay in a peaceful environment.....failure to understand the true meaning of happiness....failure to understand the love of our loved ones ....failure to understand that there is only one life which will soon be a past....resulting in giving ourselves and others 'a disturbed environment'.Do you think we are heading towards the right approach of living a happy life ....I guess all of us will agree in unison that its ''NO''.For every problem there lies a solution,it only depends on how we deal with it and the priorities we need to set to live a happy life,rather than living a life full of conflicts.
Please give a deeper thought to this .......
If you disagree with someone about something,then-by definition-you have a conflict. And conflicts of one sort or another happen every day, so if we don't handle them very well they can very easily make us feel bad.Even the smallest of conflicts can chip away at our self-esteem if they are not managed carefully. And when I say small,I mean small: looking into issues like this... a couple who were really struggling to get along and you'd never guess what was highest on their list of their many current issues - they squabbled every single day about whether a partly-used food can should remain in a convenient spot or neatly stored away in the cupboard so as not to offend the eye!
To most of us this sounds like a trivial problem, and indeed it is - on the surface at least. But these two people squabbled about it every day,often in front of their children,always with a display of irritation. They could not see a way to resolve the issue without one or other of them simply giving way and feeling diminished by having "lost" the argument.
If you'd like to discover a healthy style that would resolve ANY conflict - not just where to put partially-used food cans -But also ,a way to end the daily squabbles and arguments,giving a 'HOME ' a healthy atmosphere, especially to children.We first need to understand that these conflicts brings us nothing but-failure......failure to deal with such issues in a responsible manner,failure to have a focus in our lives .....failure to understand that children are meant to stay in a peaceful environment.....failure to understand the true meaning of happiness....failure to understand the love of our loved ones ....failure to understand that there is only one life which will soon be a past....resulting in giving ourselves and others 'a disturbed environment'.Do you think we are heading towards the right approach of living a happy life ....I guess all of us will agree in unison that its ''NO''.For every problem there lies a solution,it only depends on how we deal with it and the priorities we need to set to live a happy life,rather than living a life full of conflicts.
Please give a deeper thought to this .......
"You can't solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it."- Albert Einstein.
excellent article....food for thought.....you should write on home sickness too....bye
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ReplyDeletegood thoughts god bless you always.
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